Lifestyle Club
Lifestyle Club is a private membership only Missouri and Illinois Adult
Entertainment Social Club where adults can have fun and mingle.

Offering Free 1 Year Memberships!

Everyone one is welcomed to the Lifestyle Club regardless, of your
marital status, sexual orientation,weight, height, color,race, religion and
etc. However, one must be 18 years of age and be accepted.

Lifestyle Club was formed for the following reason:  To have adult fun,
liberate oneself and to be apart of something that is accepted by
others of like-minds and interests. 
 

Midwest Secrets
SOUTH EAST WI / KENOSHA--MIDWEST SECRETS-PREMIER ADULT SOCIAL CLUB-LARGE ESTATE W/INDOOR HEATED POOL
Midwest secrets is a private ON-PREMISE club for couples and single females
Convieniently located in wonderful South Eastern Wisconsin
Close to the illinois border and Interstate-94
Midwest Secrets ia a 3000 sq ft estate nestled on 4 acres
We are a new age lifestyles club where like minded couples and single females can meet in a safe secure social dance club setting
Our guests have a choice of several themed play rooms
Along with the sexy wild in INDOOR INGROUND HEATED POOL
The steamy HOT TUB SPA
And the erotically charged PARTY ROOM and DANCE FLOOR
NO MEMBERSHIP REQUIRED, NO INVITATION REQUIRED,JUST CALL AND MAKE A RESERVATION :)
All parties are reservation (RSVP) only.
Call 262-880-0300 to make a reservation

Alternative Nites
We are Chicagoland's only "single" friendly club. A club that brings couples together with select singles, male and female. Alternative Nites is a on-premise club, hosted by a lifestyle couple. Seeing the demand for such, we decided to create an atmosphere that gives the alternative to the traditional lifestyle clubs. We offer a no pressure party, great for the new comer or the "seasoned" swingers.
Parties are held once a month on the 2nd Friday...Check our Dates page for party dates and themes.
Our most important priority is Discretion. No visitor to our club will ever have the need to worry about their names being given out. We have added security so you may attend in complete assurance that any problem will be dealt with appropriately.
Alternative Nites is a lifestyle facility providing all the features and amenities you would expect from a FULL service lifestyle facility. We have a "sports bar" social area, mirrored dance floor with DJ, 15 play rooms both private and semi- private and group and bondage room. 8 Restrooms, 3 showers and a game room complete with a pool table and a pinball machine.
2002 Windy Clitty Award Winners for
Best On-Premise Club, Alternative Nites
Best Deejay, Ted

Are we as a couple expected to participate?
NO, you are never required to do anything you do not want to do.

Isn't swinging a " couples only" thing?
To people trapped in the 50's , YES, but this is a new age and many people choose to explore different things. We do not condone or promote ANY activity and our club simply believes that you should have the choice without being labeled or judged.

Are there more single men than couples?
Never! We allow singles based on the number of couples that are attending.

What about all the bi and married cheating men?
As with any club, your screening can only be so strict. We do our best to qualify and eliminate anyone that we think does not fit in to the path the club has chosen.

What if we are not interested in singles?
A polite NO is all you need to say, it is no different from being approached by a couple that you were not interested in.

Club Adventure
Socializing with other people in this wonderful alternative lifestyle is a very important thing to most of us. It is very hard to go to a club without knowing people. You never really know what to expect. We understand this! Club Adventure is a private social club limited to members and invited guests. The club is dedicated to couples who are interested in meeting each other in a non-threatening environment.

We started off taking the club out to bars and then going to a hotel, but it got a little hard to explain the number of people in our room! Then we renovated a wonderful place - our home - and started having parties every weekend. After several years, we decided that it was time to reclaim our personal space and go back to the big parties. We have monthly hotel parties that are held in a great hotel just a couple of minutes north of Chicago. Its a beautiful hotel, with ample banquet space and they welcome our business. In fact, its the same hotel we used for the very first Chicago Adventure. These dances give you a chance to socialize, dance, have a few drinks, and then you can decide if youre interested in visiting the hospitality rooms we always have. These parties are the fantastic socials all of us lifestylers remember from years ago, and if youre new, welcome home! Its a great place to start. Please check out our calendar on our website to see when our parties will be.

Come and join Club Adventure, the "Hottest" place to play!!! Our club's activities are for couples only. Please understand that for the comfort of all our guests, we will need to confirm that you are a couple. The screening policy is simple, just call (877) 375-2582. We do need to speak with you both. At that time, you will be given information on attending the orientation. If you are currently a verifiable member of another club, call us and we will extend an invitation to you without the orientation.

*An Important Note to New Lifestyle Couples*

I get a lot of letters from couples who are unsure that this lifestyle is really for them. I can tell that they are really reluctant to try a club because they think they will be pressured into participating. I think the time to address this issue is now.

Our philosophy about swinging is pretty simple. Its an opportunity to meet people you like, who have things in common with you, who would be your friends anyway. If you meet a couple like this, you dont have to stop at the flirt, you can continue and develop your friendship to include sex if it works for all four of you.

We know your concerns and have tried to answer the most common questions on our FAQs. In fact, if you have other questions you'd like the answers to, take a look at the Dear Sue columns. A lot of what you're thinking about is not unique. It should make you feel better to know that you're not the only one thinking about these things. Please let us know if you have any issues that remain unanswered. We want everyone to understand that this lifestyle is all about respecting other couple's guidelines. And they should respect yours.
We understand that you really dont know if your relationship will be able to withstand this, or if jealousy will destroy it. Perhaps you feel safer meeting others in a safe environment (like a club) and then playing only with each other. The atmosphere of an on-premise club is very exciting and making love to each other in that venue is a very big turn on for a lot of people. The question is:where do you go to be sure that no one will snicker and say, soft swingers...oh god . Whos to say whats right for you? Certainly not us. This is primarily the reason that our club has been named as one of the best places for new couples. You wont hear any snide comments about whos hardcore and whos not If you want to come and simply socialize, that is perfectly fine. In fact, Ron and I have gone to clubs for years and found that the socializing is great fun. Many times we simply went out to breakfast instead of visiting the party rooms. Weve been involved in this lifestyle for a lot of years, but we do whats best for us. We have always respected other couples that do whats best for them, and that respect is a part of our club. Club Adventure is a place for couples to give swinging a test drive. You are the only people who can know for sure what is right for you. We can only provide you with a safe and comfortable environment in which to experiment. Does this make sense to you? Please email us with any questions you might have, and call us for directions and information. Please be sure you're both on the phone.

You never will know, if you dont try!

You may Email us at: clubadventure@clubadventure.org, or call us at 877-375-2582.

We look forward to meeting you and being able to provide an atmosphere conducive to meeting people looking for the same things as you!
Our ICQ # is 37383042. Our AOL screen name is ClubAdvntr.

FAQs
1. What is swinging? Swinging is social and sometime sexual interaction between you and someone other than your significant other. Some call it recreational sex.

2. What's soft swinging? There are varying degrees of swinging these days. Hardcore swingers are those couples who actually have intercourse with other partners. Soft swingers do not. But that's oversimplifying it. There are also varying degrees of soft swinging as well. Some couples only fondle, but do not have oral sex. Some couples have oral sex but don't kiss others, etc. The boundaries that you set should be agreed upon by you both, and you are well within your rights to demand that others in the lifestyle respect those boundaries. However, if you do meet another couple that you really like, you should have a conversation with them about those boundaries so there aren't any surprises in the bedroom.

3. Do we HAVE to have intercourse? Absolutely not. As a couple you should set some boundaries that will keep your primary relationship safe from stress. If one of those boundaries is not to have sex, just be sure that you communicate this to other couples who may have different boundaries. Swinging is not just about sex. Although it is sometimes the result of friendship, the process does not include sex at all. According to Dr. Bob McGinley of LSO, "Swinging is an Attitude".

4. How do we meet other couples? You can answer an ad in a magazine, meet people online, post ads online, or go to clubs. Please be very careful when talking with people you've not met, especially online. You should remember that it's pretty easy to get discouraged if you meet people who aren't completely honest. Sometimes it's easier to go to a club, at least you can see what you're getting!

5. What about HIV? We all know that the AIDS virus is transmitted through body fluids. The only way to be sure you're safe is never to have sex at all! (and don't use IV drugs, etc.) However, we know that's not reality! If you agree to both use condoms, that will not eliminate the risk. It will help, but you need to also consider using dental dams, condoms, or saran wrap when having oral sex as well. (What if you have a cut in your mouth and you have oral sex with an infected person?) A lot of couples today are deciding not to have any intercourse with other people to be safer. It's a life and death decision that you're dealing with here, so don't belittle it. Some couples say that you have just as good a chance of being hit by a bus, and maybe they're right. However, why would you take a risk that you could avoid so simply? You are talking about your lives, you know.

6. Why no singles at your club? Our view of swinging is that it's a couple's lifestyle. In light of the recent filing of a lawsuit against a club for sexual discrimination, many clubs are no longer allowing any singles.

7. Is everyone gorgeous at the clubs? No! Most swingers are regular people, just like you. We all take very good care of ourselves, but the average age of lifestylers is 30-50ish. Our advice to you is this: we understand that you are concerned about how you look, but if you are considering swinging, make friends first. It's a lot more comfortable to be with your friends than just doing people you don't know.

8. Is swinging cheating? Isn't this an interesting question? Is it? What are your boundaries? And most importantly, what is your motivation for getting involved in this lifestyle? If you think this about open marriage or collecting boyfriends and girlfriends, then it is cheating. If you think that it's ok to be with other people without telling your other half, then it is cheating. The couples who have longevity in swinging are those that both agree to their rules and stick to them. If you think your partner is straying, talk about it!

9. What if I get jealous? Communicate! If you're jealous, it's usually because your significant other is doing more than you, or you feel threatened by a relationship they are having. If you discuss honestly the very thing that concerns or confuses you, s/he will be happy to listen and probably you will be able to alleviate the feeling by changing a rule or two. You need to remember that while your other half is having a great time, YOU are the one that s/he is in love with.

10. Should we tell others about our new lifestyle? That is completely up to you. However, the very people you think will understand, usually don't. This lifestyle is wonderful and you do feel like you should share your happiness, but a lot of society is shocked by our open attitude.

11. We're scared, but excited. How do we pick a place to go? Check out the local club listings on our website, or a very complete listing at www.nasca.com. Then make the phone call. Most clubs will want to speak to both of you right then, so be sure that you're available. Then ask questions of them. Ask them if there are rules about dressing down at a certain time, or if they allow singles. Ask if they have security, what the rule is about socializing vs.sex, if you're required to be married, etc.

12. What's the difference between off-premise clubs and on-premise clubs? Off premise clubs are held in a hall or a warehouse and are strictly for socializing. On premise clubs allow for socializing and partying to happen all in the same location.

13. What is open and closed swinging? Open swinging is a situation where all couples involved are interacting in the same room. Closed swinging is where couples split up and go to different rooms. The question is why would you pick one over the other. A lot of people think it would be easier not to see another person pleasuring your significant other. However, what if they needed you?

14. You've been swinging for over 20 years. What's the secret??? This sounds really silly, but here goes...baby steps. It makes more sense to take this lifestyle a little bit at a time and see how it fits within our boundaries. Some of it does, and some of it doesn't. If it works, we keep it. If it doesn't, we pitch it. And we test it with time. The biggest thing we've learned is that we need to communicate with each other, to tell each other what's wrong, or right, and most of all to reassure each other that we love each other!

Club Meet4More
Description: Private on premise adult social club, we host weekly Saturday parties for upscale committed couples and single ladies at our beautiful Ranch location. Secluded private property with a lake, secure parking, friendly and frisky staff. Our deejays keep you bumping and grinding the night away within our large, sub level dance floor with fantastic light show; youre guaranteed to hear the best dance, urban, salsa and classic grooves to keep you dancing. Located just 35 minutes South of Downtown Chicago and 5 minutes from the Indiana/Illinois border. Come mingle, flirt and socialize with other like minded, upscale, discreet couples within the privacy of our pleasure paradise. Complete with Social areas, Party rooms, Heated Pool, Fireplace, Jacuzzis and Adult movies. Every Saturday night starting at 8:00pm, bring your own alcoholic beverage and a good attitude; all parties include dinner buffet, desserts, drink mixers, raffle/contest, access to our private ranch and Chicagos sexiest couples. Parties are by invitation only, you must RSVP by calling (219) 678-8223. We honor NASCA and other valid club memberships; you must present your valid membership card for consideration.

Club Information
Contact: info@clubmeet4more.com / (219)678-8223

Parties are open to committed couples and uncommitted single females, if you have never been to a Club Meet4more party, you must call us (219)678-8223 so we can speak with you both. After we have spoken to you both, we will add you to our list, and forward you the party information, and location.
Being sociable is the key to meeting other members; Our parties are no pressure, and although encouraged, you are under no obligation to participate in any activities. We have limited overnight accommodations, so if you're planning to stay and play between 3:00am - 10:00am the cost is an additional $20.00 for couples and $10 single ladies, payable at the door. If you are looking for nearby hotel's, please scroll down near the bottom of this page, for the link to area hotels.

Our goal is to provide a safe, friendly and sociable environment for all who attend, feel free to introduce yourself to our group of friendly couples, and single ladies; If you're a bit nervous, we can always do the honors of introducing you to whomever you'd like to meet; If ethnic variety, and choice is what you're looking for, our club is one of the most culturally diverse groups in the Chicago area, and we provide various locations to make new friends, create new experiences, and share special times with other committed couples and groups. We do not imply or guarantee that you will experience an erotic encounter by attending our events, as this is by mutual consent only. Discrimination, harassment, and drunken behavior towards any couple, or single will get you banned from attending all future Club Meet4More sponsored events.

Details
1. Party information
2. What do I wear?
3. What do I bring?

Most parties are B.Y.O.B Bring your own liquor. We provide Cups, ice, condiments and mixers. No liquor is sold or provided at Club Meet4More. Your bottled is labeled and stored within one of the refrigerators or inside of the liquor cabinet during your visit. When we depart the social, feel free to take your bottle with you to the hospitality suite, there is is bar and plenty of room to store your bottle. Please take it with you at the end of your visit.

ID is required by both partners the first time visiting Club Meet 4 More. Drivers License or another picture ID will need to be presented when entering. This will confirm that what you have placed on our application/disclaimer is true to the best of your knowledge. You must be at least 21 to enter.

The parking area is able to accommodate over 150 cars. Make sure to lock all valuables inside of your trunk or out of plain view to discourage perspective car thieves.

Although offered, but not required, you can purchase a hotel/party package from our hostess during your check in. This is the BEST cost in the area for similar hotel rooms. Besides not having to worry about leaving such a great party, we suggest purchasing a package for the following reasons, 1. If you're looking for a more intimate setting, you'll have your OWN room number on our party floor, this gives you the option to plan your own AFTER parties with other members/guests attending the party. 2. If you plan on changing often during the night, you will have your own private bathroom for the night..LOL 3.If you plan on drinking, it's the best alternative to drinking and driving.

Sexy attire is encouraged, always 'dress to impress'. Wear what you wear at a public nightclub downtown, then feel free to wear it to Club Meet 4 More.

Many of our parties have a theme or contest, everyone is encouraged but never required to participate. Club Meet 4 More just asks that you come with an open mind and free spirit. Looking to dance, make new friends, socialize and have a great time.

Safe sex is encouraged at all times, but it's a matter of decision between the couples involved. Condoms will be available in all of the rooms, but if you prefer a certain brand, we encourage you to bring your own. Feel free to use as many as you need while playing in the party rooms, DO NOT take condoms back to your personal hotel rooms.

Membership/Party Rules
Parties are RSVP only, online reservations are reserved for members and non members who've attended at least one parties. New couples must call (219)678-8223 together for RSVP information
Parties are designed to introduce new and seasoned swingers to other consenting couples with similar interests. Under no circumstances do we promote or require sexual activities at our parties, as this should be consensual between all parties involved.

You must be 21 and over to attend, with proper ID required.

Parties are open to members and their guests only, everyone attending must fill out our non-disclosure application their first time attending. This doesn't make you a member, but it allows you to attend our parties.

We are not responsible for lost, or misplaced items, so don't bring anything you consider valuable.

No Means No - All parties are open to couples and females involved in different aspects of the swinging lifestyle. Ask FIRST before touching, and respect those who are not interested.
No Illegal Drugs, you will be asked to leave, and reported to law enforcement.

Drink only the alcohol you purchase.
No drunk and obnoxious behavior will be tolerated, if you have to get drunk in order to feel comfortable, our parties aren't for you. You will not be invited back.

All sponsored guests must arrive with the member sponsoring you, and that member is responsible for your actions, if we ask the guest to leave, the sponsoring member must do the same.

Please respect the boundaries, and feelings of your partner, if he or she is uncomfortable, then say "no, thank you", or if your partner is ready to leave the party, you must vacate too.
To respect the privacy of others, No cameras, or recording devices are ever allowed in party areas, this includes the use of camera phones, if you are caught photographing or recording others without explicit permission from each party involved, you hereby agree to surrender the illegal device, or prove beyond a reasonable doubt that that all photos and/or recordings in question have been permanently destroyed. You will then be asked to leave, and not invited back.

Our Member's and guests attending Club Meet4More functions, believe it is within their constitutional right to assemble.

Couples Choice
Weekly theme parties with dances every Saturday night, and the last Friday of every month have an average of between 50 to 100 couples. New, inexperienced couples are always welcome, too. The dance floor, surrounded by mirrors, with strobes and flashing lights, really sparkles! There are private parties for Birthdays, lingerie parties and weekly raffles. Every week there are door prizes.
Some of the most popular themes include:

Amateur Strip-Tease Contests
Toga Nights
Slave Auctions
Leather and/or Lace
Tight Jeans Night
Best Buns Contests
Sexy Legs Contests
50/60's Nights
Just A Gigolo Party
Halloween Parties

Gala New Year's Eve Party every December 31st!!
Overnights are allowed, even encouraged (especially if revelers have been drinking or have a good distance to drive). There's an additional charge of $30, and bedding is provided (also, linens for the bathrooms plus deodorant, mouthwash and soap). Other club owners are welcome to visit--at no charge--and occasionally some drop by.
Dawn and Dave publish a newsletter six times a year with upcoming events and interesting stories and jokes.
Although Couples Choice has not hosted any conventions, many members attend local or national events, such as Conclave and Lifestyles.
Dave and Dawn do swing at their own parties, which encourages others to relax and do likewise. (They consider themselves very much "hands-on managers" and wouldn't have it any other way!) The hosts and co-hosts greet folks, show newcomers around, and handle all the little chores that need doing.
For more information on this Midwest swingers' Mecca, call Dawn or Dave at (708) 333-4860, or write: Couples Choice, P.O. Box 2806, Country Club Hills, IL. 60478.

History of Couples Choice
Dave and Dawn met on a blind date arranged by a mutual friend and lifestyle participant. From the first, their romance had all the earmarks of a perfect swinging relationship--the growing love, the deepening trust, the desire to share sensuality. That was 20 years ago. Today not only do they still swing...they own and operate Couples Choice near Country Club Hills, Illinois!
What else do you do, after all, when you get a really good deal on a second house? You share it with all those wonderful couples you've partied with over the years!
Dave and Dawn were active in several Illinois clubs before opening their own NASCA-affiliated, on-premises swingers' club in February, 1988. When the opportunity arose, it just seemed natural for Dave to suggest, "Let's open a party house!" It's located about half an hour from Chicago's loop (downtown) on two spacious acres of land. There's ample off-the-road parking, with security in the lot. Couples Choice is very open and friendly, not given to cliques.
The club promotes the lifestyle at every opportunity. Dave, Dawn and their host couples also attend other clubs just to offer support and gather ideas. The Couples Choice staff consists of five hand-picked co-hosts and five DJs--all very loyal, friendly and frisky!!
Dave and Dawn interview potential members one-on-one on the club premises, emphasizing the club's no-pressure atmosphere and no obligation policy. They gladly answer any and all questions on the club or on swinging in general. As much as they personally enjoy the lifestyle, they always point out it's not right for everyone. While they're fairly flexible about membership, they do reject all pushy people, unstable couples, and single males immediately. (Single males are never allowed at club functions, although single females do occasionally attend.)
HIV testing, while strongly encouraged, is not a membership requirement. Dave and Dawn promote safe sex both by educating people about their options and by having condoms readily available. (And education and example, not coercion, are really the keys to compliance!)
Cameras are not permitted on the premises, except for certain special occasions, such as Halloween or New Year's Eve. There is, also, a couple who does "fantasy" videos for people with those interests. Discretion reigns supreme here, as at all bona fide swingers' clubs.

Couples Playhouse in Paradise
Quietly tucked away in Chicago's Western Suburbs, Max and Eva's parties have become a haven for all that enjoy a private party, with an of a nightclub, and a fantasy come true. All this can be realized all at one location.
Surrounded by other like-minded committed adult couples, and single women, Max and Eva's offers parties most weekends. They are on Saturdays and select Fridays and Sundays, with various themes. On Fridays, you can come relax around our Pool Parties, whereas Saturday nights are host to high energy theme parties, which bring visitors from across the country.
Our Sunday parties provide a little something for everyone. Volleyball, sunbathing, or simply relaxing are the order of the day for our guests on Sundays.
Among our amenities are:
* Dancing to the sounds of a DJ Quality Sound System
*Oak Dance Floor
* An all season heated, in ground sports pool with privacy fence
* Large Sun Deck available, with an above ground pool for full body tanning.
* Contemporary building with 5 bathrooms
* Party rooms
* Spectacular Lighting
* 2 fireplaces
* 2 Wonderful Hot Tubs
* On Saturdays, we offer abuffet style complete meal for your enjoyment -- food until 2 a.m.
* Soft drinks (BYOB)
* Quiet private areas to socialize
* Rooms for your pleasure in a pleasant atmosphere.

There is never pressure to enjoy or participate in anything that is happening at Max and Eva's, just come out and enjoy yourself, among other like-minded people and lifestylers. Please see our reservations section for details on how you can join us for an evening or two.
Also feel free to check out some other interesting sites under our links page.
We're looking forward to you coming out to play!
Club Ettiquette

One of the nicest things about our lifestyle is that most of us relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and common courtesy;just as we ourselves wish to be treated. Think C.S.A.S.C.(Common Sense and Social Courtesy). If you employ the following suggestions and adapt them to your own situation, you should be a welcome participant. Taken from www, Written by Kenn & Lisa
1. BE COURTEOUS Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties and fears. Courteously is how we all want to be treated - with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is our treating people the way we ourselves want to be treated. Remember the Golden and Silver rules.
2. BE FRIENDLY Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.
3. CLEANLINESS Nothing turns a person off faster than an unclean body or unfresh breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always a good idea.to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination. It is amazing what time to drive somewhere, stop for a bite, or whatever, can do or rather UNDO.
4. RESPECT OTHERS' FEELINGS Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.
5. DON'T BE PUSHY If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.
6. ONLY DO WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.
7. HOW AND WHY TO SAY NO One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, however, can lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be done with a simple "No, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is what usually causes the problems and the pain.
8. ALCOHOL OR DRUGS Most of us do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle.
9. PRACTICE SAFER SEX It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. The use of condoms should not offend anybody.
10. ENJOY YOURSELF Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.

The Golden Rule: "NO, Thanks", means NO! Anyone (yourself included) may say no at any time for any reason, without further explanation. If you're in a situation that makes you uncomfortable Just Say No! Don't jeopardize your joy and satisfaction with the life-style - or that of your partner, by doing anything against your will.
Don't submit to guilt or pressure. Swinging is fun. Keep it that way. Disentangle yourself as quickly as possible with a firm, but gentle response. Be honest, but up-front, in order to avoid misunderstandings.
Always be kind. First and foremost. it's the proper, humane way to behave. Secondly, you may reconsider and want to party later. Keep your options open.
Everyone has been rejected at some time. If you're rejected do NOT take personal offense. Keep the encounter upbeat and light. Who knows? The person who passes up the goodies today, may want to swing with you tomorrow, or may be the key to you meeting another terrific partner!
Know your own likes, dislikes, boundaries and strengths, thoroughly. Encourage and aid others in their own explorations. Keep relationships friendly and pleasant. Always propose, never impose! Swingers feel their way through encounters in more than one way. Open all channels of communication.
Deal with jealousy head-on! It's a normal, human reaction. Learn what triggers jealousy in yourself and in your partner. Then work things out. This may mean modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual expression. Festering jealousies are destructive. Seek Constructive remedies as soon as possible.
Let your steady partner know he or she is always number one! Take time to stroke their ego. Be generous with a kiss and a smile. Touch bases with each other often, so that you both feel secure. Always arrive together. Honor any and all prior understandings. Then Party, Party Party!! Always leave together.
Use common sense and courtesy. Concentrate on being kind, thoughtful and sensitive and smile. Happiness is contagious!
Respect the guidelines others set, and make your own wishes and desires clear. There should be No Surprises! If you're Bi for example ask if the couple or single you've chosen has a similar interest. Likewise, if you really object to Greek or Bondage, bring it up for discussion. Once you're all comfortable with the format, let the games begin.
Before, during and after you party, pay close attention to "Body Language." There's more to human interaction than just sexual signals, but that's definitely part of the picture. Enhance your romance by considering the total person. Learn to read the signs and you'll pick up on what makes your partner comfortable, happy, excited, and ultimately satisfied.
DISCRETION IS PARAMOUNT IN THE SWING COMMUNITY! Who you see, what you see and what you and everyone else does, MUST remain private. Never, never discuss details with anyone not intimately involved. Promoting the life-style is wonderful. Publicizing it is unforgivable.
Demand absolute discretion and be worthy of the same.

Fantasy Barn
The Fantasy Barn is a great place for Committed swinging couples to gather and socialize.
For your socializing pleasure, there is a semi-enclosed Hot Tub (closed during the extreme cold weather), a large social area with a Dance Floor and live DJ. Multiple private and semi-private Play rooms are available for your enjoyment.
While no liquor is sold at The Barn, we invite you to BYOB. Cups, ice, condiments, and mixers are furnished.
The Fantasy Barn is located on 5 acres outside of Newark Illinois, with plenty of parking and is easily accessible from Chicago and suburbs.
Minutes from Plainfield, minutes from Yorkville, Minutes from Interstate 80, not too far from anywhere. It's well worth the trip.
Overnight guests are welcome with reservations recommended.
There are several hotels and motels located in nearby towns.
You may contact us for more details.
The Barn is designed for Committed adult couples. We provide a safe, sane, and quality location for you to meet like-minded couples. You will find a diverse age group and ethnic mix. The Barn discourages cliques.

Peoria Couples
Ron and Sue are proud to announce the Grand Opening of Club Adventure - St. Louis. The party you've grown to love in Chicago, Peoria, and Milwaukee is now coming to St. Louis. This is a monthly hotel social. If you haven't been to one of these dances, they're fun! They are well attended, classy dances, complete with ice-breakers, hosts, and a DJ. We understand that not everyone is into stranger sex, nor do we believe that it should be expected. It's a perfect opportunity for you to dress up and dance, have a few drinks at the cash bar, and meet some couples who you may really like! You won't feel pressured to "do something" at all! Come and join Club Adventure, the hottest place to play!
WHO ARE YOUR HOSTS?
Ron and Sue are a lifestyle couple who have been swinging for over 20 years. We've figured out what works best for us as a couple. We truly believe that this lifestyle is best experienced as a couple. We have a deep understanding and commitment to each other, to our marriage, and to our family and friends. We know that while this lifestyle is definitely a part of us, we would stop in a second if it threatened our marriage. We've been going to clubs and conventions since 1979, and have planned several very successful events for couples that, like us, look at this lifestyle as foreplay! It's important to us that you are comfortable with our view of this lifestyle. We feel that there is room for all levels of play, from soft swinging to full swap. We encourage all couples not to sit in judgment of those who are different from themselves, but to open up a line of communication to explore and discuss personal boundaries and rules. It's important to us that you believe that you can maintain a monogamous relationship emotionally, while still being able to enjoy your friends. It's important to us that you understand that this lifestyle is FUN! You have the opportunity to meet other couples that may have a lot more in common with you than you think.

Private Affairs
A Little about us.
We only take Reservations for 50 couples,
Once we are full we are full. So get your Reservation in ASAP.
If you choose to drink any alcohol please, bring your own bottle and drink responsibly.
If you choose to use the jacuzzi please,
BYOT (Bring your own towel)
Private AffairsniscReservations call
1-800-355-8063 or 1-815-751-7392

Contribution $50.00 per couple.
Annual membership of $10.00 after the third visit.

Parties are from 8:00 pm.til 3:00 am.unless it is a special party then times will be posted with that party theme.

Get the facts ask our internet representatives.
Please put PA in the subject line when inquiring about the club.
Non Aol and Aol contact host's
HtFunCpl, Squooshie, Squooshie2000&Nitrochic2000
A reminder for all Members and future Guests of
Private Affairsnisc
All parties are BYOT (Bring your own towel),
BYOB ( Bring your own alcoholic or non alcoholic beverage of your choice ) and remember that because of local liquor laws we do not supply cups, ice, or mix.

Our Thoughts
Private Affairsnisc is a couples only club .
We feel that a couples only club is a great place to meet without having couples come into your home, having to plan an evening out on the town, or wondering if the couple you plan to meet will show up at all. We also know that it can become a hassle planning the time and meeting place. So we have tried to eliminate all the worries by establishing our club and opening it to couples. This gives you and other couples a place and a time where you can meet and don't have to worry about who you might run into at the local restaurant.

Attending our parties.
We feel that every couple that attends our parties are part of our (lifestyle) family. We try to make everyone feel as comfortable as possible any way that they feel is best. We pride ourselves in having parties that are both fun and exciting. We as a club look forward to having new couples join us. We do not in any way expect our guest's to participate in anything at anytime. Its all about meeting couples, making new friends, and maybe exploring fantasies that might have never become a reality.

We try to accommodate our guests .
We hold our parties 4 times a month every saturday night. So that couples that have a free weekend can enjoy the lifestyle as well as meet other couples. We understand that not everyone has the time every weekend to enjoy the lifestyle nor have a lot of time in our hectic daily life of raising kids, working, and having in-laws. We feel it gives our members a chance to meet couples that they might never get to.

Our membership.
We have a annual $10.00 membership fee after the third visit, which is minimal because we feel that you the couples that attend our club want to enjoy the lifestyle and the clubs without being hit with a extreme amount just to attend. Actually this should have probably been put into the accommodation area but we felt it was a different matter.

VIP ALT PArties
WE host off premise swimgers meet and greets, threesome meet and greets and more! We have events almost every week.

Zone de Plasir
Zone de Plasir is Chicago's ONLY on-premises club catering to couples in a committed relationship and single females. Our upscale environment features a large and intimate social area that is ideal for mingling. We also have several play areas - both private and group. We hold exciting and fun events on Fridays and Saturdays. We are a members only organization but you do not need to become a member to attend an event. Please see our website for further detailed information.