new DC Starz new
Washington DC's Oldest and Most Exclusive Private Lifestyles Club
Area's Most Attractive & Friendly Couples
Safe Environment
Plenty of Free Parking in Private, Secluded Area

Club Name: DC Starz
Web site: DCStarz.org
E-mail: starz@the-crucible.com
Phone: 202-554-1310
Contact: Frazier
Party hours: Every first Saturday from 9 - 3AM
Single males: No
City: Washington, DC
On/Off: On Premise

Mail: Starz @ The Crucible
         1816 Half Street, SW
          Washington, DC 20014

Hampton Roads Couples
 Hampton Roads Couples is now known as East Coast Couples / Hampton Roads Couples

The First NASCA Approved Club in Virginia

East Coast Couples (ECC) / Hampton Roads Couples (HRC) is a social club where couples may meet to socialize, communicate, and become friends with other like-minded couples and select singles in a no pressure atmosphere.
A couple is defined, for this purpose, as a married or committed couple consisting of one female and one male. ECC/HRC is only a meeting place!
We do not discriminate on the basis of race or creed. We do require prospective members to be 21 years old or older to attend.

ECC/HRC keeps all membership listings confidential.

ECC/HRC will allow couples with a valid membership card from another social club to attend. For Social clubs within 150 miles of ECC/HRC, a ECC/HRC membership must be purchased on your next visit.

Please visit our website and read our Rules of Conduct.

ECC/HRC takes cash, credit card, and PayPal payments at all ECC/HRC events or by check, mailed to ECC/HRC and received no later than 3 days prior to event. To pay with PayPal, use email address hrc_info@hrcouples.com.

Rites of Bacchus
Rites of Bacchus Entertainment (ROBE) was founded by a couple who places a high value on sexual liberty and indulgence. After having run several other types of businesses in the past, we finally decided to aspire to become some of those rare people who make their living just doing what they love. We do love the Lifestyle and adult entertainment, for the friends and fun they have brought into our lives. And so we founded ROBE to bring greater pleasure into other peoples' lives as well.
About the company name:

Put simply, Bacchus [pronounced /BAHK-us/] is the Roman god of wine and revelry. His followers participated in a festival called Bacchanalia [pronounced /bahk-uh-NAL-ya/] that involved wine, dance, sex, and all kinds of other good stuff. For more info, read on:

One of the twelve great Olympian gods, Dionysus is the Greek god of wine, revelry, and orgiastic delights. His Roman counterpart is Bacchus. His name appears as early as the second millennium B.C.E. as a fertility deity, but his popularity and association with wine and the harvest date from about the eighth century B.C.E., when the first theatrical productions were held each year in his honor.

Followers of Dionysus often took part in the Bacchanalia, a frenzied festival that incorporated wine with dancing and sexual activity. The animalistic instinct associated with the Bacchanalia empowered his women followers, known as Maenads, who in their release from sanity and inhibitions allegedly would tear apart animals or children and devour the raw flesh.

Such is the case in the fifth-century B.C.E. play The Bacchae by Euripides. Pentheus has the stranger Dionysus arrested for impropriety, but when the god manages to tempt the king to don women's clothes and spy on the Maenads, they attack him and tear his body apart.

This complete release of all sense of morality and social mores in favor of animalistic instincts eventually gave rise to the concept of an individual's being "Dionysian," in contrast to "Apollonian," or rational and logical. The Dionysian individual values feeling more than intellect and emotion more than rationality.

Early Greek pottery depicts Dionysus as a bearded man, but by the fifth-century B.C.E., he appears as a beautiful youth. He is usually seen holding a thyrsus, a spear with a large pinecone at the tip, and wearing a grapevine on his head and leopard skin around his body. His followers include sexually-charged creatures such as the god Pan, satyrs, nymphs, and fauns.

excerpted from Roberto C. Ferrari's article "Subjects in the Visual Arts: Dionysus'.

Southwest Va Socials
We are a couples-only group who holds monthly socials in a renovated former night club, adjacent to our host hotel. We have a byob policy, providing mixers and bartenders for you. We provide non-alcoholic beverages, as well as food and snacks. We have a hospitality suite complete with hot tub, sauna, and adjoining group room. Special room rates for members attending parties.

We would like to welcome you to Southwest Virginia Social Group

If you are new to the lifestyle, let us take a few moments to tell you a little about
our group. Hopefully, we can give you some useful information that will help
answer any questions you may have about our group or swinging in general.

We are a private group of consenting adults who enjoy meeting people with
shared interests and having a good time together. Although we are a group
for couples, we do not hate singles. We feel that for our group, a couples only
setting is more comfortable and conducive to the environment that we are
trying to enjoy. We provide a relaxed, yet classy atmosphere for our couples
where they can meet other couples with the same or similar interests in a no
pressure, comfortable, yet night-club type atmosphere.

Again, we are a no pressure group and at no time are you obligated to do
anything other than what you are comfortable with. We have our events
arranged so that you can mingle with others but not feel intimidated by some
who are more seasoned. If at any time you feel uncomfortable, please let one
of the identified staff know and we will do what we can to help.

Your hotel accommodations are your responsibility and paid for by you,
although we have arranged a special rate for our members. We encourage
you to stay at our host facility because of the alcohol consumption, so that you
may return safely to your families.

Dress is a matter of preference. We encourage you to dress comfortably.
Some ladies will dress very provocatively while others are not. The usual rule
is "dress to impress" or according to the events theme. Most men dress very
casual. Our major requirements are that all dress must be street legal or that
you wear some type of cover up to go from your room to the event building.

There are to be no sexual acts in the group area. We will have a hospitality
suite in the room section of the hotel. Flirting, teasing, and minor flashing will
be allowed.

You are under no obligation to join in any activities that you are not
comfortable with. We just encourage you to meet other couples and have fun.
If at any time someone does something that you or your mate does not feel
comfortable with, just say no. NO MEANS NO!!!
If the person does not comply with your wishes, please feel free to seek out
one of the identified staff members. We are there solely to make sure that your
visit is one of the most memorable experiences you will remember.

We are often asked about age groups. Our members must be at least 21
years of age. That is the only age requirement. In the same token, we are a
couples group. This does not mean that you must be married, but must be
registered as a couple. Special note: We take very special care to make
sure that our members are able to enjoy themselves in a secure
environment. If you are in a relationship in which your partner does not
participate, please be careful if you are making plans to attend with
someone other than your partner. If we are forced to deal with a jealous
spouse/partner, this could cause problems with our host facility and
local law enforcement. We may impose fines against you and your date,
which may include any legal fees or other fees concurred in this
incident.

We hope that you have found some useful information on this page. If not, use
our contact us page to send any questions that you may have. Our main goal
is for you to meet other couples who you can become friends with in and
outside of the group.
Friendships are the basis of the entire group.

Below are a few questions that we feel some of you may have. These may
also be of some help to you in your choice to join our group:

1) Who comes to SWVASG?
We welcome couples from all over Virginia and surrounding states. We
welcome couples from anywhere who may be visiting the area. The only
requirement is that you are registered as a couple. We look for those who
enjoy a fun, friendly, and erotic atmosphere. Our members come from all
walks of life, but share the same interest in that their lifestyle experience be a
private matter.

2) What type of facilities do we have?
We have a former night club that we have renovated to promote the fun &
friendly, yet classy atmosphere that most seem to enjoy. We have a bar with a
bartender to mix your alcoholic beverages with the mixers that we provide, or
soda or coffee if you prefer the non-alcoholic beverages. We will also provide
snacks and lite foods for you to enjoy. We will have a DJ and large dance
floor. We will have plenty of seating for those who want to gather in large
groups or smaller sections for those who look for a more intimate setting. We
will also have a hospitality suite complete with hot tub and sauna. We would
like to stress that we are a very clean group and will ensure that the premises
will be cleaned and ready for each event.

3) Do we have to swing at these events?
Definitely NOT. There is at no time any pressure to do anything other than
have a good time and make friends with others in the lifestyle. This is why we
have several different areas for those who are new and those who are more
seasoned. We do encourage those of all experiences to mingle with others to
help us maintain the friendships that we all look for. You may at any time enjoy
just being alone as a couple or with a large group. There are no scheduled or
structured swinging activities. Participation is solely a matter of choice.

4) What if I see someone that I know at SWVASG?
This could very well happen as we are trying to create a group for this area for
those of us who usually have to travel to attend an event with another online
club. The main thing to remember is that they are also there for the same
purpose of meeting other couples who are in the lifestyle and can relax and
enjoy the atmosphere. The best way to handle this is to say hello and have a
good laugh and continue to enjoy the event. Who knows who you may become
good friends with outside of the group?

Just remember. We are all there to enjoy the atmosphere and make
friends with others in the lifestyle. The new couples seminar will help
with any anxieties you may have and the staff will be happy to discuss
any issues or answer any questions you may have in private. We are
there to help you enjoy our events so that you will look forward to the
next one.

Your Privacy
We value your privacy as we do our own. To help ensure
your privacy is always protected, we follow these policies in
handling your personal information.

We never provide any information to anyone under any
circumstances.

We do not sell, share, or give any group information to
anyone under any circumstances.

The information you provide to us is kept secure at all
times. Only the group directors have access to this.

Your personal information such as your mailing address,
phone number, and email address are not included in the
information we have at the events. Limited information
such, as your name, is in the check-in books.

We provide security at all group events. No one can enter
our events without passing through the security checks.

We have a great working relationship with our host facilities
who work with us to ensure your privacy.

Our facilities are situated so that your privacy can be
maintained at all times.

All guests at our events must check in at the group
registration. A photo ID must be provided along with our
group membership card to enter our events.

No recording devices or camera phones are allowed in any
of the party areas or in the hospitality suite. This is to
ensure the privacy of all members.

And last but not at all the least. Upon signing the group
membership form and registering for the events, you agree
that you are a member of the group and that you will use
the group, group's website, and participate in the group
events solely for the purpose of your personal pleasure. By
signing, you also agree that you are not a member of the
media and will not use any information found within these
pages or information obtained at the group events for
publication or any other professional use.
You agree that you are not in any manner using any
information in any manner that will harm any of the group's
members or its directors.

YOUR PRIVACY IS THE TOP CONCERN THAT WE TAKE
VERY SERIOUSLY.!!!

Tips

TOP 10 SWINGERS TIPS

Talk to your partner.
Open communication is vital to a healthy swinging lifestyle. We
only recommend swinging to couples who are honest with each
other and are open minded enough to discuss their deepest
fantasies with each other.

Listen to your partner.
Communication before, during, and after are important. Use
predetermined code words, or "looks" to communicate during
any swinging activity. This way you can tell your partner what to
do-or not do, without being shy or embarrassed to say
something.

Keep an open mind.
Those who are open to new ideas are those that will have the
most fun swinging. Don't be afraid to try new things. If you ever
hear someone say they are "try-sexual", what they mean is that
they will try anything at least once.

Ask questions.
Swingers love to meet people. They are the friendliest people
you will ever meet. They will be glad to help you out with your
questions and concerns. Everyone has the same basic
concerns; jealousy, moral issues, fears, diseases, convincing a
partner, etc. People who have experienced these situations can
help you make the important decisions you need to make.

Always be honest.
Don't try to be someone that you are not. The only thing
disheartening is meeting someone only to find out that they are
not as they described themselves. If you place or answer ads,
always talk on the phone a few times before you ever meet in
person.

Use the tub.
You will find that many swingers have hot tubs. Next time you
see a friend or relative with a hot tub...stop and wonder. If you
are at a friends' house or a party, use the hot tub. It is really
easy to feel comfortable being naked in front of others if you are
in the water. It will help you relax too.

Go easy with the alcohol.
This cannot be stressed enough. If you drink, be smart about it.
If you have to be drunk to swing, you shouldn't be in this
lifestyle. Social consumption of alcohol is fine and accepted, but
don't abuse it. No one wants their evening spoiled because of
one person's irresponsibility.

Be prepared.
Everyone is nervous the first few times, and everyone is
jealous-at least to some degree. Being prepared for these
emotions will make dealing with them that much easier. Talking
to others who are experienced is a great way to prepare
yourself.

Do it for you.
If you are thinking of swinging because you want to please your
loved one, but personally are not interested, you're doing it for
the wrong reason. You are going to enjoy it if you are interested
in swinging.

NO MEANS NO.
This is probably the most important rule of all.
If at any time you are uncomfortable, simply say "No, thank
you." This is a rule that is respected by all those who swing.
And if you ever hear someone say "No, thank you", be sure to
respect their wishes. This does not mean that they do not want
to be part of the group with you or to be rude.

Virginia Friends
 Virginia Friends is an upbeat lifestyle club that holds theme dances once a month at a Richmond, VA area hotel. Meet loving, caring, open & honest couples and single ladies in a safe, NO pressure atmosphere. We are not a dating service and we never give out the names of members to any third party who's only interest is to "hook-up" with someone outside of our club environment. Your privacy is completely safe with us. No single men, cheaters, or drugs! We always welcome new couples and single ladies from mild to wild. Special seminars are held for newcomers so you can ask questions and put any fears you may have to rest.

If you are open to fun, adventure, and looking to meet like minded people please take your time and read through our site. You will find most if not all the information you seek within.

FAQs
How do we become members of your club? Is there a membership fee?

Joining Virginia Friends is very simple. All you need to do is pick a social you would like to attend and RSVP for that date. Most couples do this the same month the social is being held. When you show up for the social you will be asked to fill out your new membership forms and pay an annual membership fee (found on our Fees and Charges page) along with the regular dance fees. That's all you have to do to join. Although some clubs do not require a membership fee, Virginia Friends is a privately run club and, by law, memberships are required to join and attend club functions.

Are walk-ins allowed, or must we RSVP?

Yes. Walk-ins are allowed, but we highly recommend you RSVP. This will allow us time to enter you into our system and generate your name tags. By RSVPing on time, you will be qualified for reduced event rates when applicable.

What are the fees and charges?

Please go to our Fees and Charges page for listing.

What sort of people are in the lifestyle?

Average people such as yourself. Primarily in the socio-economic middle to upper class. Members are mature, happy, and exploring people with a zest for living and a curiosity of life who on the average enjoy a good relationship.

Why swing?

Contrary to popular belief couples do not get involved in the lifestyle out of boredom but out of a sense of adventure instead. Basically it is couples who already enjoy a good relationship and want to add another dimension. It is a shared experience that appeals to their sexual and emotional needs and fantasies. Allowing couples to explore these desires together rather than apart. Couples with troubles in their relationship are cautioned not to get involved in the lifestyle.

Should everyone swing?

No. With so much to recommend, like many other things, swinging is not for everyone. If swinging poses a threat, or is not of interest, to either part of a couple, swinging would not be pleasurable therefore not advised. If it is something of interest to both parts of the couple, and you feel able to handle it, explore swinging and the experience.

Is the lifestyle as fun and exiting as I have heard it is?

You bet it is! It is every bit as erotic, exciting, and fulfilling as you imagine it to be. You can explore your favorite fantasies securely! You can engage in private and intimate sexual activities, share your mate in a threesome, enjoy another couple, or engage in the famous group swinging, all in one evening!

Can our relationship be damaged at a swing club?

As we have stated before, if you are having problems in your relationship, or swing does not appeal to both parties in a couple, swinging is not recommended. But for secure open minded couples, relationships reportedly have generally been improved with swinging. It is a shared activity that promotes understanding, intimacy, honesty, and communication.

Do we have to join any activities?

NO! Absolutely not. You are free to experience your own erotic adventure without getting others involved if you so choose. Many are just looking for a little extra excitement to spice up their own relationship. Some members are active in the lifestyle, some are exhibitionists, others are voyeurs, some are into fetish wear. Yet all are open minded, fun loving people.

What kind of music do you play?

We have a DJ that plays the best of today's latest sounds.

Is there a dress code for the club?

Generally speaking, for men is a pair of dress slacks and a sports shirt while ladies come dressed sexy and sensuous without being "overly" exposed. Many members look for the theme of that evenings event and come dressed accordingly. The main thing to stress is to dress for yourself, be comfortable but not sloppy or trashy!!

What is the average age?

While age is not an issue, our members generally range from the late 20's to the early 50's with the bulk being between the 30's and 40's.

Are our names given out to outside agencies or other club members?

NO!! Never. Your name, address, and phone numbers are personal and kept strictly confidential! We never give out this information even to other club members without your permission.

We are a minority or interracial couple. Will we be discriminated against?

The club does not discriminate based on age, color, creed, social class, education, or income. We are an EOLO (Equal Opportunity Lifestyle Organization). Some couples fantasize about having sex with another race. I.E. A lot of white women's fantasies are about being with some one of another color and visa versa. This is about variety, the spice of life!

What if we meet an acquaintance?

If this happens it will be a surprise for both parties. Greeting each other is the best thing to do. Most of these types of meetings will result in a better relationship with that acquaintance. Remember, they are there for the same reasons you are. They are not going to tell anyone you were there because you could tell on them. Probably you will have a good laugh in the beginning and might benefit from the friendship you already have.

Can a woman ask another woman to dance?

Sure, a lot of women who come to the club are attracted to other women. When the feeling is mutual it may end up in a very erotic experience. Displays of bisexuality is accepted and encouraged among women while it is strongly discouraged among men. This is the general conception throughout the lifestyle. Call it what you will, but just watch any porn movie. You will never see two men together in a "straight" film, but will always see women together.

We are very shy but would like to meet another couple.

As a group members are friendly and outgoing people, but it's a two-way street. You should introduce yourself to others. If you are unusually shy, or the group appears cliquish, ask the host to make some introductions for you. Don't be a wall flower. Also don't set your expectations too high. Look for couples within your own age group, weight, cleanliness, etc. This could avoid a disappointing evening.

Can we be up-front about our sexual likes and dislikes?

It is essential that everyone know up-front what they are getting into, and avoid an embarrassing situation later on. As a rule of thumb it is always good to let the other couple know what your limitations are. It is generally easier if the two couples can go off and discuss your limitations before an encounter rather than during. Then let the girls lead the way.

Because we are local and our schedule is unpredictable, is it mandatory we get a room in the hotel to attend?

No. It is not mandatory you get a room.

We are very curious about the lifestyle. Can you send literature?

Because of the wealth of information on the net, we feel everything you need is there. Please take time to look through some of the links on our Resources pages.

I saw on your site that single females can attend. Can you give me a rough estimate on how many?

Sometimes two to three though it may vary. There is no certain way to tell exactly how many single ladies will attend at any given time.

Is your Friday night social the same as Saturday Night? What should we wear? How many couples should we expect?

First, if you notice that the social starts at 9:00pm. This is because most people work on Friday so we start the social a little later. This gives people time to go home from work, get ready and a little extra time to get to the hotel. Also, there are allot of couples that come from DC, Hampton Roads, Western VA, NC and even MD. Again, most people dress to impress however anything but ripped up pants or nasty T shirts. This is not a low class club. Nice jeans are fine. There are about a third the amount of couples that show up for Fridays dance. There is no theme unless it lands on a holiday.

This is our first time to VAF. Since the "New Comers Seminar" is only on Saturday night can we still come on Friday.

By all means! If you have been to another club it should be no problem. Even if you are new to the Lifestyle and feel comfortable, then you should check it out. Its a good way to get a head start and meet people in a calmer atmosphere. Just abide by the club rules, all ABC laws and respect the hotel staff. If you have any questions please see the security personnel. Just don't use the excuse, "I didn't know".

Very Important!!!

Do not allow yourself to be forced into a situation you are uncomfortable with. You should never feel pressured to do anything you do not wish to do. You are at the club to have fun. Being coerced is not fun. So if anyone persists after being told no, please tell the club hosts or security. Respect others' right to privacy and be discreet. What you see, hear, and where you saw it is all privileged information. DO NOT abuse it.

New Couples Information

Couples new to the club and especially new to the lifestyle are required to come to the new couples seminar. There we will discuss the hotel rules and the club rules. This only lasts about 10 minutes. At that point anyone that has had experience in "The Lifestyle" can head out and start enjoying the evening. The second half of the seminar we will discuss "The Lifestyle". If you are new or relatively new then we strongly recommend you stay. This will help you and your spouse to get the most out of the evening and help you to avoid any potential pitfalls. So if you are new, read on!

Most people have the wrong idea of what a swing club is. Many think that its just one big orgy and you check your clothes at the door and then dive right in, doing anything you want with whomever you like. At Virginia Friends this is COMPLETELY not the case! More than anything else, Virginia Friends is a social club where youll meet and form friendships with some of the nicest people youve ever met. In some cases, youll form bonds that will last a lifetime. Heres how it works...

When you walk into a swing club for the very first time, you and or your partner are probably very nervous. You dont know anyone there and you might feel like everyone is watching you. Thats a good sign! That means youre normal. Thats exactly how everyone feels their first time.

You might expect a lot when you first come to a club and thats probably the biggest cause of anxiety for first time visitors. I realize that for many men its hard to not think about fulfilling all your fantasies about orgies and threesomes involving the man with two women, etc. That could be a huge mistake. As a first time visitor, wives are usually more nervous about the evening, and one sure way to add fuel to that nervous fire is for her to see her husband bouncing off the walls with excitement about jumping into an orgy or looking overly anxious about being with anyone new and that is not his mate.

The best way to approach the evening is with only one single expectation, and that is to have a fun time together. For your first visit to Virginia Friends, plan on having a nice dinner and enjoying the sexually charged dance floor. This way youll both be completely comfortable, shes not worried about him wanting to dive into the first orgy he sees and hes not worried about deciding who is worthy of touching his precious wife.

Keep reading because below are a set of rules and suggestions to familiarize yourself with to be sure you have the best time possible.
With this approach you are certain to have the greatest night of your life.

At the end of the night, maybe you'll exchange phone numbers with this other couple or maybe you'll just enjoy seeing them at "Your" club once in a while,,, Remember, it's all up to you.



Come to Virginia Friends with an open mind and a desire for fun. You'll make some great friends and have a great time.


Rules To Live By For A Guaranteed Great Time

* The Golden Rule: "NO means NO". Anyone may say "NO" for any reason at any time even if you are in the middle of a swinging encounter and have changed your mind and want to stop it right there! If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say "No". Do not jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will just because you are afraid to say no. The friendliest way is to say, "oh no thank you, but thanks for asking". Be honest initially, and you will avoid any misunderstandings. Dont forget that peoples attitudes change and who knows? Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different opinion.

* Always treat one another with respect. After all, this is a party!!!! Besides, you dont want to be rude or judgmental, because you wouldnt want it to happen to you. If a couple talks to you and you are not interested in swinging with them, that doesnt mean you cant be nice to them. They are people just like you! Just politely let them know.

* If you are rejected (and it happens to everyone, including women), Do NOT take personal offense. Rejection is a very personal thing, and its almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Honesty with each other is crucial. Who knows? You could end up with a great friendship if you handle the situation right.

* Deal with jealousy head on! It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical & recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over swinging.

* Always let your steady partner know she/he is number one. Arrive together, take time to caress them, touch base often, it makes one feel secure. And always leave together.

* Use your common sense and good judgment when you are involved in a swinging situation. Be kind, thoughtful, and sensitive. Swingers are people and have feelings too!!!

* Honor any and all prior understandings & rules you have made between each other, and be sure to COMMUNICATE with each other openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules.

* Respect the guidelines you set as a couple and communicate them to prospective partners. Open, honest communication is imperative to forming relationships! And please dont forget to respect the guidelines of others. Dont try to "talk them into" changing the rules because you dont happen to agree with them!

* Pay attention to body language. There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with and it will tell you more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or happy and excited.

* Demand absolute discretion! And be worthy of the same. Discretion is paramount in this lifestyle! Privacy is imperative!!! Never, ever discuss details inappropriately. Everything you do, everything you see, MUST remain private. Virginia Friends has a saying, "Everything you see here, Everything you hear here, must remain here when you leave here".

* Most of all, Have fun.

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