Washington DC's Oldest and Most Exclusive
Private Lifestyles Club
Area's Most Attractive & Friendly Couples
Plenty of Free Parking in Private, Secluded Area
Club Name: DC Starz
Web site: DCStarz.org
Party hours: Every first Saturday from 9 - 3AM
Single males: No
City: Washington, DC
On/Off: On Premise
Mail: Starz @ The Crucible
1816 Half Street, SW
Washington, DC 20014
Hampton Roads Couples
Hampton Roads Couples is now
East Coast Couples / Hampton Roads Couples
The First NASCA Approved Club in Virginia
East Coast Couples (ECC) / Hampton Roads Couples (HRC)
is a social club where couples may meet to socialize,
communicate, and become friends with other like-minded
couples and select singles in a no pressure atmosphere.
A couple is defined, for this purpose, as a married or
committed couple consisting of one female and one male.
ECC/HRC is only a meeting place!
We do not discriminate on the basis of race or creed. We
do require prospective members to be 21 years old or
older to attend.
ECC/HRC keeps all membership listings confidential.
ECC/HRC will allow couples with a valid membership card
from another social club to attend. For Social clubs
within 150 miles of ECC/HRC, a ECC/HRC membership must
be purchased on your next visit.
Please visit our website and read our Rules of Conduct.
ECC/HRC takes cash, credit card, and PayPal payments at
all ECC/HRC events or by check, mailed to ECC/HRC and
received no later than 3 days prior to event. To pay
with PayPal, use email address firstname.lastname@example.org.
Rites of Bacchus
Rites of Bacchus Entertainment (ROBE) was founded by a
couple who places a high value on sexual liberty and
indulgence. After having run several other types of
businesses in the past, we finally decided to aspire to
become some of those rare people who make their living
just doing what they love. We do love the Lifestyle and
adult entertainment, for the friends and fun they have
brought into our lives. And so we founded ROBE to bring
greater pleasure into other peoples' lives as well.
About the company name:
Put simply, Bacchus [pronounced /BAHK-us/] is the Roman
god of wine and revelry. His followers participated in a
festival called Bacchanalia [pronounced /bahk-uh-NAL-ya/]
that involved wine, dance, sex, and all kinds of other
good stuff. For more info, read on:
One of the twelve great Olympian gods, Dionysus is the
Greek god of wine, revelry, and orgiastic delights. His
Roman counterpart is Bacchus. His name appears as early
as the second millennium B.C.E. as a fertility deity,
but his popularity and association with wine and the
harvest date from about the eighth century B.C.E., when
the first theatrical productions were held each year in
Followers of Dionysus often took part in the
Bacchanalia, a frenzied festival that incorporated wine
with dancing and sexual activity. The animalistic
instinct associated with the Bacchanalia empowered his
women followers, known as Maenads, who in their release
from sanity and inhibitions allegedly would tear apart
animals or children and devour the raw flesh.
Such is the case in the fifth-century B.C.E. play The
Bacchae by Euripides. Pentheus has the stranger Dionysus
arrested for impropriety, but when the god manages to
tempt the king to don women's clothes and spy on the
Maenads, they attack him and tear his body apart.
This complete release of all sense of morality and
social mores in favor of animalistic instincts
eventually gave rise to the concept of an individual's
being "Dionysian," in contrast to "Apollonian," or
rational and logical. The Dionysian individual values
feeling more than intellect and emotion more than
Early Greek pottery depicts Dionysus as a bearded man,
but by the fifth-century B.C.E., he appears as a
beautiful youth. He is usually seen holding a thyrsus, a
spear with a large pinecone at the tip, and wearing a
grapevine on his head and leopard skin around his body.
His followers include sexually-charged creatures such as
the god Pan, satyrs, nymphs, and fauns.
excerpted from Roberto C. Ferrari's article "Subjects in
the Visual Arts: Dionysus'.
Southwest Va Socials
We are a couples-only group who holds monthly socials in
a renovated former night club, adjacent to our host
hotel. We have a byob policy, providing mixers and
bartenders for you. We provide non-alcoholic beverages,
as well as food and snacks. We have a hospitality suite
complete with hot tub, sauna, and adjoining group room.
Special room rates for members attending parties.
We would like to welcome you to Southwest Virginia
If you are new to the lifestyle, let us take a few
moments to tell you a little about
our group. Hopefully, we can give you some useful
information that will help
answer any questions you may have about our group or
swinging in general.
We are a private group of consenting adults who enjoy
meeting people with
shared interests and having a good time together.
Although we are a group
for couples, we do not hate singles. We feel that for
our group, a couples only
setting is more comfortable and conducive to the
environment that we are
trying to enjoy. We provide a relaxed, yet classy
atmosphere for our couples
where they can meet other couples with the same or
similar interests in a no
pressure, comfortable, yet night-club type atmosphere.
Again, we are a no pressure group and at no time are you
obligated to do
anything other than what you are comfortable with. We
have our events
arranged so that you can mingle with others but not feel
intimidated by some
who are more seasoned. If at any time you feel
uncomfortable, please let one
of the identified staff know and we will do what we can
Your hotel accommodations are your responsibility and
paid for by you,
although we have arranged a special rate for our
members. We encourage
you to stay at our host facility because of the alcohol
consumption, so that you
may return safely to your families.
Dress is a matter of preference. We encourage you to
Some ladies will dress very provocatively while others
are not. The usual rule
is "dress to impress" or according to the events theme.
Most men dress very
casual. Our major requirements are that all dress must
be street legal or that
you wear some type of cover up to go from your room to
the event building.
There are to be no sexual acts in the group area. We
will have a hospitality
suite in the room section of the hotel. Flirting,
teasing, and minor flashing will
You are under no obligation to join in any activities
that you are not
comfortable with. We just encourage you to meet other
couples and have fun.
If at any time someone does something that you or your
mate does not feel
comfortable with, just say no. NO MEANS NO!!!
If the person does not comply with your wishes, please
feel free to seek out
one of the identified staff members. We are there solely
to make sure that your
visit is one of the most memorable experiences you will
We are often asked about age groups. Our members must be
at least 21
years of age. That is the only age requirement. In the
same token, we are a
couples group. This does not mean that you must be
married, but must be
registered as a couple. Special note: We take very
special care to make
sure that our members are able to enjoy themselves in a
environment. If you are in a relationship in which your
partner does not
participate, please be careful if you are making plans
to attend with
someone other than your partner. If we are forced to
deal with a jealous
spouse/partner, this could cause problems with our host
local law enforcement. We may impose fines against you
and your date,
which may include any legal fees or other fees concurred
We hope that you have found some useful information on
this page. If not, use
our contact us page to send any questions that you may
have. Our main goal
is for you to meet other couples who you can become
friends with in and
outside of the group.
Friendships are the basis of the entire group.
Below are a few questions that we feel some of you may
have. These may
also be of some help to you in your choice to join our
1) Who comes to SWVASG?
We welcome couples from all over Virginia and
surrounding states. We
welcome couples from anywhere who may be visiting the
area. The only
requirement is that you are registered as a couple. We
look for those who
enjoy a fun, friendly, and erotic atmosphere. Our
members come from all
walks of life, but share the same interest in that their
lifestyle experience be a
2) What type of facilities do we have?
We have a former night club that we have renovated to
promote the fun &
friendly, yet classy atmosphere that most seem to enjoy.
We have a bar with a
bartender to mix your alcoholic beverages with the
mixers that we provide, or
soda or coffee if you prefer the non-alcoholic
beverages. We will also provide
snacks and lite foods for you to enjoy. We will have a
DJ and large dance
floor. We will have plenty of seating for those who want
to gather in large
groups or smaller sections for those who look for a more
intimate setting. We
will also have a hospitality suite complete with hot tub
and sauna. We would
like to stress that we are a very clean group and will
ensure that the premises
will be cleaned and ready for each event.
3) Do we have to swing at these events?
Definitely NOT. There is at no time any pressure to do
anything other than
have a good time and make friends with others in the
lifestyle. This is why we
have several different areas for those who are new and
those who are more
seasoned. We do encourage those of all experiences to
mingle with others to
help us maintain the friendships that we all look for.
You may at any time enjoy
just being alone as a couple or with a large group.
There are no scheduled or
structured swinging activities. Participation is solely
a matter of choice.
4) What if I see someone that I know at SWVASG?
This could very well happen as we are trying to create a
group for this area for
those of us who usually have to travel to attend an
event with another online
club. The main thing to remember is that they are also
there for the same
purpose of meeting other couples who are in the
lifestyle and can relax and
enjoy the atmosphere. The best way to handle this is to
say hello and have a
good laugh and continue to enjoy the event. Who knows
who you may become
good friends with outside of the group?
Just remember. We are all there to enjoy the atmosphere
friends with others in the lifestyle. The new couples
seminar will help
with any anxieties you may have and the staff will be
happy to discuss
any issues or answer any questions you may have in
private. We are
there to help you enjoy our events so that you will look
forward to the
We value your privacy as we do our own. To help ensure
your privacy is always protected, we follow these
handling your personal information.
We never provide any information to anyone under any
We do not sell, share, or give any group information to
anyone under any circumstances.
The information you provide to us is kept secure at all
times. Only the group directors have access to this.
Your personal information such as your mailing address,
phone number, and email address are not included in the
information we have at the events. Limited information
such, as your name, is in the check-in books.
We provide security at all group events. No one can
our events without passing through the security checks.
We have a great working relationship with our host
who work with us to ensure your privacy.
Our facilities are situated so that your privacy can be
maintained at all times.
All guests at our events must check in at the group
registration. A photo ID must be provided along with our
group membership card to enter our events.
No recording devices or camera phones are allowed in any
of the party areas or in the hospitality suite. This is
ensure the privacy of all members.
And last but not at all the least. Upon signing the
membership form and registering for the events, you
that you are a member of the group and that you will use
the group, group's website, and participate in the group
events solely for the purpose of your personal pleasure.
signing, you also agree that you are not a member of the
media and will not use any information found within
pages or information obtained at the group events for
publication or any other professional use.
You agree that you are not in any manner using any
information in any manner that will harm any of the
members or its directors.
YOUR PRIVACY IS THE TOP CONCERN THAT WE TAKE
TOP 10 SWINGERS TIPS
Talk to your partner.
Open communication is vital to a healthy swinging
only recommend swinging to couples who are honest with
other and are open minded enough to discuss their
fantasies with each other.
Listen to your partner.
Communication before, during, and after are important.
predetermined code words, or "looks" to communicate
any swinging activity. This way you can tell your
partner what to
do-or not do, without being shy or embarrassed to say
Keep an open mind.
Those who are open to new ideas are those that will have
most fun swinging. Don't be afraid to try new things. If
hear someone say they are "try-sexual", what they mean
they will try anything at least once.
Swingers love to meet people. They are the friendliest
you will ever meet. They will be glad to help you out
questions and concerns. Everyone has the same basic
concerns; jealousy, moral issues, fears, diseases,
partner, etc. People who have experienced these
help you make the important decisions you need to make.
Always be honest.
Don't try to be someone that you are not. The only thing
disheartening is meeting someone only to find out that
not as they described themselves. If you place or answer
always talk on the phone a few times before you ever
Use the tub.
You will find that many swingers have hot tubs. Next
see a friend or relative with a hot tub...stop and
wonder. If you
are at a friends' house or a party, use the hot tub. It
easy to feel comfortable being naked in front of others
if you are
in the water. It will help you relax too.
Go easy with the alcohol.
This cannot be stressed enough. If you drink, be smart
If you have to be drunk to swing, you shouldn't be in
lifestyle. Social consumption of alcohol is fine and
don't abuse it. No one wants their evening spoiled
one person's irresponsibility.
Everyone is nervous the first few times, and everyone is
jealous-at least to some degree. Being prepared for
emotions will make dealing with them that much easier.
to others who are experienced is a great way to prepare
Do it for you.
If you are thinking of swinging because you want to
loved one, but personally are not interested, you're
doing it for
the wrong reason. You are going to enjoy it if you are
NO MEANS NO.
This is probably the most important rule of all.
If at any time you are uncomfortable, simply say "No,
you." This is a rule that is respected by all those who
And if you ever hear someone say "No, thank you", be
respect their wishes. This does not mean that they do
to be part of the group with you or to be rude.
Virginia Friends is an upbeat lifestyle club that
holds theme dances once a month at a Richmond, VA area
hotel. Meet loving, caring, open & honest couples and
single ladies in a safe, NO pressure atmosphere. We are
not a dating service and we never give out the names of
members to any third party who's only interest is to
"hook-up" with someone outside of our club environment.
Your privacy is completely safe with us. No single men,
cheaters, or drugs! We always welcome new couples and
single ladies from mild to wild. Special seminars are
held for newcomers so you can ask questions and put any
fears you may have to rest.
If you are open to fun, adventure, and looking to meet
like minded people please take your time and read
through our site. You will find most if not all the
information you seek within.
How do we become members of your club? Is there a
Joining Virginia Friends is very simple. All you need to
do is pick a social you would like to attend and RSVP
for that date. Most couples do this the same month the
social is being held. When you show up for the social
you will be asked to fill out your new membership forms
and pay an annual membership fee (found on our Fees and
Charges page) along with the regular dance fees. That's
all you have to do to join. Although some clubs do not
require a membership fee, Virginia Friends is a
privately run club and, by law, memberships are required
to join and attend club functions.
Are walk-ins allowed, or must we RSVP?
Yes. Walk-ins are allowed, but we highly recommend you
RSVP. This will allow us time to enter you into our
system and generate your name tags. By RSVPing on time,
you will be qualified for reduced event rates when
What are the fees and charges?
Please go to our Fees and Charges page for listing.
What sort of people are in the lifestyle?
Average people such as yourself. Primarily in the
socio-economic middle to upper class. Members are
mature, happy, and exploring people with a zest for
living and a curiosity of life who on the average enjoy
a good relationship.
Contrary to popular belief couples do not get involved
in the lifestyle out of boredom but out of a sense of
adventure instead. Basically it is couples who already
enjoy a good relationship and want to add another
dimension. It is a shared experience that appeals to
their sexual and emotional needs and fantasies. Allowing
couples to explore these desires together rather than
apart. Couples with troubles in their relationship are
cautioned not to get involved in the lifestyle.
Should everyone swing?
No. With so much to recommend, like many other things,
swinging is not for everyone. If swinging poses a
threat, or is not of interest, to either part of a
couple, swinging would not be pleasurable therefore not
advised. If it is something of interest to both parts of
the couple, and you feel able to handle it, explore
swinging and the experience.
Is the lifestyle as fun and exiting as I have heard it
You bet it is! It is every bit as erotic, exciting, and
fulfilling as you imagine it to be. You can explore your
favorite fantasies securely! You can engage in private
and intimate sexual activities, share your mate in a
threesome, enjoy another couple, or engage in the famous
group swinging, all in one evening!
Can our relationship be damaged at a swing club?
As we have stated before, if you are having problems in
your relationship, or swing does not appeal to both
parties in a couple, swinging is not recommended. But
for secure open minded couples, relationships reportedly
have generally been improved with swinging. It is a
shared activity that promotes understanding, intimacy,
honesty, and communication.
Do we have to join any activities?
NO! Absolutely not. You are free to experience your own
erotic adventure without getting others involved if you
so choose. Many are just looking for a little extra
excitement to spice up their own relationship. Some
members are active in the lifestyle, some are
exhibitionists, others are voyeurs, some are into fetish
wear. Yet all are open minded, fun loving people.
What kind of music do you play?
We have a DJ that plays the best of today's latest
Is there a dress code for the club?
Generally speaking, for men is a pair of dress slacks
and a sports shirt while ladies come dressed sexy and
sensuous without being "overly" exposed. Many members
look for the theme of that evenings event and come
dressed accordingly. The main thing to stress is to
dress for yourself, be comfortable but not sloppy or
What is the average age?
While age is not an issue, our members generally range
from the late 20's to the early 50's with the bulk being
between the 30's and 40's.
Are our names given out to outside agencies or other
NO!! Never. Your name, address, and phone numbers are
personal and kept strictly confidential! We never give
out this information even to other club members without
We are a minority or interracial couple. Will we be
The club does not discriminate based on age, color,
creed, social class, education, or income. We are an
EOLO (Equal Opportunity Lifestyle Organization). Some
couples fantasize about having sex with another race.
I.E. A lot of white women's fantasies are about being
with some one of another color and visa versa. This is
about variety, the spice of life!
What if we meet an acquaintance?
If this happens it will be a surprise for both parties.
Greeting each other is the best thing to do. Most of
these types of meetings will result in a better
relationship with that acquaintance. Remember, they are
there for the same reasons you are. They are not going
to tell anyone you were there because you could tell on
them. Probably you will have a good laugh in the
beginning and might benefit from the friendship you
Can a woman ask another woman to dance?
Sure, a lot of women who come to the club are attracted
to other women. When the feeling is mutual it may end up
in a very erotic experience. Displays of bisexuality is
accepted and encouraged among women while it is strongly
discouraged among men. This is the general conception
throughout the lifestyle. Call it what you will, but
just watch any porn movie. You will never see two men
together in a "straight" film, but will always see women
We are very shy but would like to meet another couple.
As a group members are friendly and outgoing people, but
it's a two-way street. You should introduce yourself to
others. If you are unusually shy, or the group appears
cliquish, ask the host to make some introductions for
you. Don't be a wall flower. Also don't set your
expectations too high. Look for couples within your own
age group, weight, cleanliness, etc. This could avoid a
Can we be up-front about our sexual likes and dislikes?
It is essential that everyone know up-front what they
are getting into, and avoid an embarrassing situation
later on. As a rule of thumb it is always good to let
the other couple know what your limitations are. It is
generally easier if the two couples can go off and
discuss your limitations before an encounter rather than
during. Then let the girls lead the way.
Because we are local and our schedule is unpredictable,
is it mandatory we get a room in the hotel to attend?
No. It is not mandatory you get a room.
We are very curious about the lifestyle. Can you send
Because of the wealth of information on the net, we feel
everything you need is there. Please take time to look
through some of the links on our Resources pages.
I saw on your site that single females can attend. Can
you give me a rough estimate on how many?
Sometimes two to three though it may vary. There is no
certain way to tell exactly how many single ladies will
attend at any given time.
Is your Friday night social the same as Saturday Night?
What should we wear? How many couples should we expect?
First, if you notice that the social starts at 9:00pm.
This is because most people work on Friday so we start
the social a little later. This gives people time to go
home from work, get ready and a little extra time to get
to the hotel. Also, there are allot of couples that come
from DC, Hampton Roads, Western VA, NC and even MD.
Again, most people dress to impress however anything but
ripped up pants or nasty T shirts. This is not a low
class club. Nice jeans are fine. There are about a third
the amount of couples that show up for Fridays dance.
There is no theme unless it lands on a holiday.
This is our first time to VAF. Since the "New Comers
Seminar" is only on Saturday night can we still come on
By all means! If you have been to another club it should
be no problem. Even if you are new to the Lifestyle and
feel comfortable, then you should check it out. Its a
good way to get a head start and meet people in a calmer
atmosphere. Just abide by the club rules, all ABC laws
and respect the hotel staff. If you have any questions
please see the security personnel. Just don't use the
excuse, "I didn't know".
Do not allow yourself to be forced into a situation you
are uncomfortable with. You should never feel pressured
to do anything you do not wish to do. You are at the
club to have fun. Being coerced is not fun. So if anyone
persists after being told no, please tell the club hosts
or security. Respect others' right to privacy and be
discreet. What you see, hear, and where you saw it is
all privileged information. DO NOT abuse it.
New Couples Information
Couples new to the club and especially new to the
lifestyle are required to come to the new couples
seminar. There we will discuss the hotel rules and the
club rules. This only lasts about 10 minutes. At that
point anyone that has had experience in "The Lifestyle"
can head out and start enjoying the evening. The second
half of the seminar we will discuss "The Lifestyle". If
you are new or relatively new then we strongly recommend
you stay. This will help you and your spouse to get the
most out of the evening and help you to avoid any
potential pitfalls. So if you are new, read on!
Most people have the wrong idea of what a swing club is.
Many think that its just one big orgy and you check your
clothes at the door and then dive right in, doing
anything you want with whomever you like. At Virginia
Friends this is COMPLETELY not the case! More than
anything else, Virginia Friends is a social club where
youll meet and form friendships with some of the nicest
people youve ever met. In some cases, youll form bonds
that will last a lifetime. Heres how it works...
When you walk into a swing club for the very first time,
you and or your partner are probably very nervous. You
dont know anyone there and you might feel like everyone
is watching you. Thats a good sign! That means youre
normal. Thats exactly how everyone feels their first
You might expect a lot when you first come to a club and
thats probably the biggest cause of anxiety for first
time visitors. I realize that for many men its hard to
not think about fulfilling all your fantasies about
orgies and threesomes involving the man with two women,
etc. That could be a huge mistake. As a first time
visitor, wives are usually more nervous about the
evening, and one sure way to add fuel to that nervous
fire is for her to see her husband bouncing off the
walls with excitement about jumping into an orgy or
looking overly anxious about being with anyone new and
that is not his mate.
The best way to approach the evening is with only one
single expectation, and that is to have a fun time
together. For your first visit to Virginia Friends, plan
on having a nice dinner and enjoying the sexually
charged dance floor. This way youll both be completely
comfortable, shes not worried about him wanting to dive
into the first orgy he sees and hes not worried about
deciding who is worthy of touching his precious wife.
Keep reading because below are a set of rules and
suggestions to familiarize yourself with to be sure you
have the best time possible.
With this approach you are certain to have the greatest
night of your life.
At the end of the night, maybe you'll exchange phone
numbers with this other couple or maybe you'll just
enjoy seeing them at "Your" club once in a while,,,
Remember, it's all up to you.
Come to Virginia Friends with an open mind and a desire
for fun. You'll make some great friends and have a great
Rules To Live By For A Guaranteed Great Time
* The Golden Rule: "NO means NO". Anyone may say "NO"
for any reason at any time even if you are in the middle
of a swinging encounter and have changed your mind and
want to stop it right there! If you are in a situation
that makes you uncomfortable, just say "No". Do not
jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this
lifestyle, or that of your partner, by doing something
against your will just because you are afraid to say no.
The friendliest way is to say, "oh no thank you, but
thanks for asking". Be honest initially, and you will
avoid any misunderstandings. Dont forget that peoples
attitudes change and who knows? Maybe sometime in the
future you may meet again with a different opinion.
* Always treat one another with respect. After all, this
is a party!!!! Besides, you dont want to be rude or
judgmental, because you wouldnt want it to happen to
you. If a couple talks to you and you are not interested
in swinging with them, that doesnt mean you cant be nice
to them. They are people just like you! Just politely
let them know.
* If you are rejected (and it happens to everyone,
including women), Do NOT take personal offense.
Rejection is a very personal thing, and its almost as
hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Honesty with
each other is crucial. Who knows? You could end up with
a great friendship if you handle the situation right.
* Deal with jealousy head on! It is a normal reaction.
Remember that this is strictly a physical & recreational
pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover what triggers
jealousy in your relationship and work it out together.
It may mean modifying your activities, but your
relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over
* Always let your steady partner know she/he is number
one. Arrive together, take time to caress them, touch
base often, it makes one feel secure. And always leave
* Use your common sense and good judgment when you are
involved in a swinging situation. Be kind, thoughtful,
and sensitive. Swingers are people and have feelings
* Honor any and all prior understandings & rules you
have made between each other, and be sure to COMMUNICATE
with each other openly and honestly so there are no
misunderstandings about your rules.
* Respect the guidelines you set as a couple and
communicate them to prospective partners. Open, honest
communication is imperative to forming relationships!
And please dont forget to respect the guidelines of
others. Dont try to "talk them into" changing the rules
because you dont happen to agree with them!
* Pay attention to body language. There is more to
interaction than words. Consider the body language of
the person you are talking with and it will tell you
more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive
to the person and you will know what makes them
uncomfortable or happy and excited.
* Demand absolute discretion! And be worthy of the same.
Discretion is paramount in this lifestyle! Privacy is
imperative!!! Never, ever discuss details
inappropriately. Everything you do, everything you see,
MUST remain private. Virginia Friends has a saying,
"Everything you see here, Everything you hear here, must
remain here when you leave here".
* Most of all, Have fun.
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